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True Story: What Was I Thinking?

By Katie on 27 July 2010  |  4 Comments

When my boyfriend Jake of three years proposed to me, I was ecstatic!  I emphatically said “Yes” and we tentatively set a date for a beautiful fall wedding, which was about seven months away.  Our “hook up” story is definitely one for the books.  I was dating a guy (who shall remain nameless) but was cheating on him with another guy named Derek.  When Derek found out I was dating Mr. Nameless, he gave me an ultimatum:  “Me or him”.  I chose Derek.  We dated for about two months and had a wonderful relationship.  Through Derek, I met his friend Jake and that’s when all the trouble started.

Derek and Jake fought over me and I ended up being forced yet again to choose one guy over the other.  In this case, I chose Jake.  I felt I had made the absolute right decision and once Jake and I started dating, I put my unfaithful tendencies aside and as of the day he proposed to me, I hadn’t cheated on him a single time.  I was so proud of myself!   Sadly, Jake and Derek never spoke again.

After seven months of planning our wedding, I was beyond frazzled and stressed out as the day got closer and closer.  Collectively, Jake and my parents had put nearly $60,000 into this grand affair and everything was ready to go.

The night before my wedding, I had gone out with my bridesmaids for drinks.   When I got a call from Jake’s old friend Derek, I was in shock.  He sounded desperate and begged to see me.  He had heard that I was getting married to Jake and just needed to talk to me before I did.  Apprehensively, I agreed and went to see him.  When I arrived, Derek opened the door and I nearly dropped dead.  He had lost at least 50 pounds, was tanned and looked taller than I remembered.  He told me he had never stopped loving me and though he knew Jake and I were getting married, he wanted just one more intimate encounter with me.  He said if I would just have him one more time, he would be able to let me go.

My stupid ego and the sight of Derek’s new-found hotness took over and before he even finished speaking, I jumped on him, wrapped my legs around his waist and passionately kissed him.  We had the greatest two hours of sex I have ever had.  After it was over, he thanked me and wished me all the love and luck in the world.  I felt guilty, but was glad that I had gotten it out of my system and was ready to marry Jake and be monogamous for the rest of our lives.

As I walked up the aisle the next afternoon, on the arm of my father, I felt happier than I ever have.  When I got to the altar, I was horrified to see Derek walk out from behind Jake and stand right beside my future husband.  Derek said to everyone, “Before I let my best friend marry this girl, I thought he and all of you should see this”.  A video was projected onto the church wall with Derek and me kissing and then having sex.  My mouth dropped wide open and Jake and Derek gave each other a knowing look and walked straight out of the church.

I found out later they had re-connected before our wedding and planned the entire thing.  To this day, I am still in debt to Jake’s parents and mine to pay back our wedding costs and have not seriously dated any guys since.  Most of my friends and family have stopped talking to me and I am still paying for this mistake every day of my life.   I guess they’re right when they say “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”

Jenny, 25, Miami, Florida

4 Comments

1. By EIN on 29 July 2010

   Interesting story.

   But what was she thinking? Oh he’s hot so I’ll cheat on the guy I’m about to marry because he’s hot. Did her marriage mean that little to her?
   Building her marriage on lies, deception and unfaithfulness, serves her right.

   Poor guy I hope he finds someone alot better.

2. By bisso41 on 8 August 2010

   I pity you,for alot of reasons

3. By james on 14 August 2010

   Susie, i am not shrink but obviously your suffering from “the grass is greener on the other side syndrome” setting aside the cheating, look at your story, you “had” to choose from two different guys several times. that tells me that for one your putting yourself in the situation which means you probably flirt allot which may seem harmless but it tells everyone around you that your not serious with who your with so opens the door to cheating. also someone who jumps from one guy to the next to the next usually suffers from a lack of self worth, you cheat because someone values you even if its just for 2 hours for only sex but your worth something to someone not just to yourself…
   what you need to do is take a hard look at yourself and your past how long has it been this way? i would guess clear back in Jr High school someone hurt you be it a GF or BF, maybe it was just kids being kids, but you need to look at your life and realize there isnt something always better just around the corner you have to be happy with what you have because if your not you will end up with nothing in the end…
   as far as your relationship with jake, it was over before the wedding plans even started otherwise you wouldnt have even taken the time to see derek in the first place, so again you were looking for the greener grass…
   what to do now? see my advise above and pay off your debts and move on…
   as far as “Once a cheater, always a cheater” thats not true you are what you make yourself, mind over matter kind of thing, but once you realize that you wont cheat again…
   good luck…

4. By berndj on 3 September 2010

   LOL @ “I had gotten it out of my system”, as if there’s some set quote of random hookups you need to get through before you can be monogamous. If anything, I reckon it’s made you MORE likely to cheat in future!

   I also think Jake (and Derek too to an extent) is a bit pathetic. Firstly for wanting to marry you given how you met, and secondly for playing KGB-like entrapment games.

   But something about this story sounds fictional.