To the author of this letter: ultimately, you’re statement wasn’t such a bad thing, but only in the act of the statement, not the statement itself. In that I mean, you stated an intent, just in the wrong way. And intent is important or you end up in the always hated ‘friend’ zone, with women. For that, you should be proud, you made a bold move. Here’s where you went wrong though: everything you did, was reactionary, meaning you wanted her to react to your actions, creating an outward validation, which portrays a lack of confidence. If you’re comfortable with your core self, it shows, especially to women. So don’t ACT cool and confident, BE cool and confident. Cool people don’t cling to outward validation, which is what you were doing, and it tricked you into thinking that you could get away with THAT statement. Don’t beat yourself up about, and don’t view it as a failure, see it as a lesson learned.

Also, don’t rely on liquid courage, it makes you say stupid things.

Ha. Clever comeback, made me smile to read it. But in real life, I don’t think most guys, including me, would buy you a drink after that comeback. Even with getting your hot F#%&*g body not being the point, your comeback sort of tries to make it seem like the only point, and sort of kills any chemistry that might have been still possible.