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We’ve come across this gem of a website, CooktoBang, which serves up a wide variety of titillating (and cleverly titled!) recipes that are guaranteed to satiate your date’s appetite for food and ignite his or her appetite for dessert. And you, my friend, are dessert. The site offers dishes sure to please your date, such as “I Ain’t No Angel Hair Pasta,” “Pad Thai Me Up,” “Spanking Spanish Rice,” and “Chicken Mango Quesadiddly-ya.” And to accompany these recipes is a whole list of cocktails, including “Bangarita,” “Chasing Ginger Tail,” and “Smoothee Operator.”

With so many great, easy, and delicious sounding recipes to rev you and your partner’s engines up, you have absolutely no excuse not to cook to bang tonight.

Visit CooktoBang and let us know if it works for you.

I’m an attractive, 22 year-old guy who is suffering from a severe case of the “you’re too nice” syndrome. If I approach chicks – at a bar, the library, wherever – they usually seem at ease with me and will often engage in conversation. They don’t think I’m some smarmy dude looking to bone them. But when I muster the balls to ask for a number, I always get the “I think we’d be better as friends” line or the girl says that she’s actually just leaving to meet her boyfriend and bolts.

If respecting women, smiling and nodding to show them I’m listening, and opening doors for them is “too nice” then we live in a really effed up world. Matt Damon seems “nice” and he gets laid. Why can’t I?

Help me, please!

Andrew

Andrew, darling,

It’s nice to be nice, but when a guy is too nice, it’s a turn-off for many women.

You’re right – Matt Damon seems like a very nice guy: he uses his celebrity to do charity work, he married a natural, non-Hollywood-type beauty, and he cares about his country’s politics. But the key to his success as a stud is that he’s not too nice. He’s got a sexy, confident swagger and his acting career proves that he’s nobody’s wimp. He seems like the type of guy who would gracefully sweep a gal off her feet and then show her his bedroom throw-down all night long. He can portray himself as a good guy, while still exuding megawatt sex appeal.

Women want a man, not a doormat. And when a guy seems too nice, most women’s internal red flags start flapping as wildly as Joan Rivers’ lips on the red carpet at the Oscars. We want respect, we want to be heard and understood (typical nice-guy behavior), but most of us want our partners to exude airs of confidence and sexual prowess. We want to feel safe around our man, like he would protect us from any dangers that might cross our paths.

I’m not saying that you won’t succeed unless you’re a typical alpha-male, or that you don’t posses any elements of this quality. I’m just saying that if there’s more to you than just being nice (and I’m positive there is), you might be more successful on the dating scene if you show glimmers of this manly ‘tude the next time you chat up a girl, while still showing her that you’re actually a decent guy, too. Blow her mind and prove that you are the embodiment of the desired nice-guy meets warrior.

Good luck!

Susie

The most obvious season staple is a coat. It will be the last thing you put on each morning and the first thing everyone sees you in! So ladies, a word of advice: don’t hesitate to spend a few extra coins on that coat you truly love, after all, you’ll be wearing that baby for the next 4-5 months! Here’s a look at a few favorites this year:

Every woman has that vivid childhood memory of tights which her mother (forcibly) stuffed her into, accompanied by an awful, usually patterned, dress. But we can all relate to the unforgettable freedom we felt when we could finally take those restricting “things” off! Keeping this in mind tights could very well be your savior this fall/winter- hard to believe, right? NOT! With tights you can don that sexy mini or sweater dress and keep your gams warm.

Scarves are the ultimate accessory of any season and in this one, they’re going to keep you warm and cozy.

There are plenty of options in the land of boots. As mentioned in What’s Hot: Women’s Fall Fashion 2009, over the knee boots are a rising trend this season. For those of you who aren’t so risky, try out a style pictured below.

Fur (faux, of course!): The fur coat and vest have comeback, but let’s do it with a little less guilt. Opt for a faux fur version, they’re gentle on your wallet, and a great way to update your look!

Watch Baldwin in action on 30 Rock as NBC tycoon Jack Donaghy:

Ramping up the comedy is a wise choice for the producers of the 2010 Oscars. Inviting two seasoned comedians to take the stage certainly can’t hurt their ratings and these two are bound to bring their A-game.

So what do you think? Is pairing up Martin and Baldwin a killer combo for the 2010 Oscars? Are they going to be HOT or NOT?

(Via Hollywood Reporter)

I say fashion …you say Kanye!

I say love…you say “Weezer!”???

Strange, but true. Jakob Dorof from nerve.com claims that he learned everything he’s ever needed to know about love and relationships from Weezer’s entire musical library. Sounds like an outlandish claim, you say? The dude makes a pretty convincing and hilarious argument for how these emo proto-hipsters actually have quite a few useful insights about l-o-v-e.

To honor today’s release of the band’s brand spankin’ new album, Raditude, we thought we’d share this heart-warming wisdom with you. Because we love you!

Click here for enlightenment & check out the video for the first single, “(If You’re Wondering if I Want You To) I Want You To,” below.

Sierra from LA stunned us with her sexy rendition of Poison Ivy  (not to mention her killer bod!) and we’re awarding her with the Hottest Halloween costume for 2009. And on top of getting to brag to everyone she knows about how she won this competition, the cherry on the sundae is that we’re hooking her up with a free Star Membership on HOT or NOT (but worry not, readers, there’ll be plenty more chances to win coming up.)

Awesome job, Sierra! We love the vines!!!

What do you all think…hot or not?

Send your photo to blog@hotornot.com with you name, age, and location!

It’s finally freakin’ here – the event where, for one glorious, ghoulish day, we can all transform into hussies, pimps, zombies, vampires, demons, celebrities, drag queens, freaks, and geeks and nobody will bat a fake spidery eyelash at us.

But dressing up is only part of what’s truly important about this celebrated day. The tradition of gutting and carving a pumpkin and placing it on your doorstep in the hopes of horrifying young trick-or-treaters is also an extremely important part of Halloween. We’ve seen the basic, uninspired Jack-o-lantern pattern since we were kindergartners; we could etch triangle eyes and a big ol’ smile into pumpkin skin in our sleep and frankly we’re bored to death of such unoriginal pumpkins that fail, year after year, to evoke either fear or awe. How do you think these pumpkins feel when they see that other people on the street have actually put some creativity and thought into their defacing strategy?

So, before you get knife-happy and jab your pumpkin in the face without a plan, consider what “mood”  you want to create. Do you want a sexy pumpkin? A terrifying pumpkin? A cute a cuddly pumpkin? Maybe you want a pumpkin that doesn’t even look like a jack-o-lantern at all (click here to see what we mean – you’re gonna love this).

Here’s a whole photo gallery of the world’s best Jack-o-lanterns (via CollegeHumor) for inspiration.

And don’t forget about the best part of carving a pumpkin: roasting those yummy seeds afterwards (once you’ve untangled them from the innards and have given ‘em a good rinse, of course). So, instead of risking your life by venturing outside on Devil’s Night (aka Halloween Eve), why not stay in with your sweetie tonight to create a killer pumpkin and roast some seeds? Save the debauchery for tomorrow night’s party!

Are you a virgin roaster? We’ve got you covered. Click here for a pumpkin seed recipe that includes visuals for those among us who need a little extra help.

You know how parties and romance (and/or drunkenness) often mix? Well, Halloween parties are no exception. If anything, the mystery and intrigue surrounding a party where everyone is costume-clad gets amped up even more than usual.

Several years ago, I was working for a company that took Halloween very seriously. They threw a huge party and went all-out – it was the sort of party where you’d feel lame if you showed up costume-less. I was doing my best green fairy.  Needless to say, this party also involved an open bar and a damn good dj. It’s comical to compare the first hour of the party (overdone co-workers boasting blood, guts, and masks milling around awkwardly, sort of mingling, drinking beers as quickly as possible) to the fourth hour (full-on club mode, everyone is drunk enough to be grooving) to the sixth hour (the numbers have dwindled, and a whole bunch of people end up in the office proper for more booze and the president of the company ends up with his pants down – photo evidence of this was deleted from the email system by IT just hours later).

Somewhere between hour 3 and 4, I cross paths with the cute guy who sits on my floor. We drunkenly flirted at the last party but hadn’t spoken since despite the tension between us (which was palpable, according to my imagination). I’d been watching him across the floor throughout the night, sort of willing him to come and talk to me, and here he was. But instead of saying anything, he offered his hand. I took and it and we began to dance (it was probably more like drunken swaying). We got more drinks a bit later on, and I can’t even remember what we talked about. We got back to dancing.

Somewhere between hours 4 and 5, I decided a ballsy, drunk move was in order. We locked lips. For some reason I opened my eyes mid-kiss only to see my boss’s boss standing several feet to the left of us and laughing (I couldn’t look him in the eye for two months after) but I just shut my eyes and went back to smooching my crush. We left the party shortly after.

I didn’t want to show my face at work the next day because I knew this would be a hot topic in the rumor mill and I don’t normally like being the center of attention. I learned my lesson, and managed to find an abandoned cubicle far from the party before making out with another guy I was crushing on at the following year’s Halloween party.

Janine, 28, New York City

Have your own hook-up or dating story to share? We might just feature you on the blog! Email blog@hotornot.com with your story, name, age, and location.

If you’ve seen it already, let us know what you think in the comments! And here’s the trailer for your viewing pleasure: