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Dating Advice: What's the Deal with Pick-Up Artists?

By Katie on 1 September 2010  |  No Comments

Dear Sexy Susie,

My girlfriends and I go clubbing a lot. We have our go-to clubs, but the problem is we always get hit on. Guys are always trying to pick us up and we know they’re just looking to get some and then move on. We just want to dance and have fun without having to deal with these guys who want to get into our pants. Why will guys do almost anything to get laid? It is like they will say anything to get us into bed and then never talk to us again. How come?

Holly, 21, Myrtle Beach, SC

Hello Holly,

Hormones are what drive men to want to get some from women who are willing to give it. Getting laid provides validation for men. It is a game of hunting and conquering.

Not all guys are looking to score with you when they try to pick you up at a dance club. Some guys just want to have fun and be flirty! They have fun in the chase, regardless of the outcome.

Look at this another way, you are so HOT to these guys want to be with you. That is quite the compliment. There are some gals who crave male attention, but don’t always get it. Some of the guys you meet might only be looking for something short term (i.e. a one-night stand), but are you looking for commitment? It’s fine to have fun with your friend, and flirt with the guys, too!

Use this to your advantage. Guys are generous in buying drinks, boosting your ego, and making you laugh. It is like an exchange or trade: They’re having fun hanging out with you and you get bombarded with compliments. It may be in hopes of getting into your pants, but it doesn’t have to be that for you.

Enjoy the limited time you have! You will find that things will change as time goes on. When they do change, you may find yourself asking where all the horny guys have gone and why they are no longer throngs of virile men trying to pick you up every Saturday night.

Good luck!

Sexy Susie