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Dating Advice: Love Connection, 2.0

By Katie on 7 July 2010  |  1 Comment

Dear Sexy Susie, I’m getting discouraged and frustrated with the lack of responses to my online profiles. The responses I do get are companies trying to get me to sign up for web cam stuff. Why are there no good gals for hook ups around?

Drew, 24, Tacoma, Washington

Hi Drew,

It is good to hear you are not putting all your eggs in one basket, as you state the plural of profile. Utilizing all avenues available when looking for a partner is the key. Online dating is about marketing yourself.

Users of online dating sites that are not genuinely there for the same reason you are and are trying to recruit you to another web site to get you to sign up to watch them are frustrating to say the least. Keep in mind, they are just doing a job they have and trying to use all avenues and resources they have access to. Most legitimate online dating sites will remove these “fake” profiles if you report them. Being online is an open free for all, you will encounter every type of person out there. You have the power to say no and minimize the amount of these profiles you have no interest in.

When using an online dating site, don’t give out personal information in your messages to others. Get a feel first for the other user. Communicate with original messaging. Don’t duplicate a message to the masses. Address the other user individually. Care about what you say.

Be creative with your photos. Be aware of your surroundings when you take a photo of yourself. When someone else sees your photo they do look at where you are and what you are wearing. Being in your laundry room with a bunch of dirty clothes around, or naked in your shower letting it all hang out may not be the ideal situation for another user to see you in right off the bat. First impression are vital.

Look at your online profile(s) as you would like a new career choice. Put your best foot forward, your best self out there. Remembering no one is perfect, say yes to everyone! Filter them out through means of messaging. Ask off the wall questions! When you go to a career interview you can be asked a question you might think is ridiculous, but the answer does help in knowing the person you are, or fit you are for the position. It is the same for online dating. Women enjoy being asked questions! There are many males who don’t express and just write one line answers. Elaborate, have an opinion, be open.

If you haven’t already, write an introduction on your profile(s), be specific about something you like about your life. Don’t judge in your profile (eg. Don’t contact me if you don’t have blonde hair).If you are critical, as opposed to being open, you will loose out on someone who could be your ideal mate.

There are females out there who want to meet you. Your avenues include in-person as well as online. When you are out and about with your day, strike up a conversation with females you are interested in. Whether it be in a coffee shop or grocery store, you have nothing to loose. You have to utilize all your options, invest quality time (as you would with a new career), and be open minded.

Good luck!

Sexy Susie

1 Comment so far

1. By Marillion on 29 July 2010

   The thing with conversation at random places is, that they are mostly very short. Of course it is true, just go on and try the next one. You can´t get to know someone if you don´t talk to anybody.