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Friday Night Date: 10 Fun Facts About Dating!

By jackie on 3 Sep 2010  |  No Comments

Did you know that the online dating industry is now worth $4 billion worldwide?  Kind of makes you wish you’d thought of it, doesn’t it?  I scoured the web and fancy statistic sites to gather these 10 Fun Facts About Dating!  Some of these may surprise you and some, not so much.  Bonus points for those who use these Fun Facts About Dating as pick-up lines when you’re out on the town this weekend!  We’d love to hear how they work for you!

1.  Speed dating was invented by a rabbi from Los Angeles in 1999 and is based on a Jewish tradition of chaperoned gatherings of young Jewish singles.

2.  The most common time for breakups is around 3 to 5 months.

3.  On average, it takes between 12 to 14 dates before couples will trade their house keys.

4.  6% of women consider themselves “desperate” to find a partner.

5.  4 out of 10 office romances result in marriage.

6.  29% of woman spend more time looking for shoes than a lifelong partner.

7.  Over the span of their lifetime,  men on average would like to have 18 sex partners, and women, 4 or 5.

8.  Married couples who met online have an average courtship period of 18.5 months.  Married couples who met offline have a courtship period that lasts on average 42 months.

9.  Women who marry a younger man suffer from a 20% increase in mortality rates when compared to marrying someone with a similar age.

10.  As of June 15, 2010, China’s soldiers are not allowed to use online dating sites.

Do you think these statistics are accurate?  Share your other Fun Dating Facts with us!

Dating Advice: What’s the Deal with Pick-Up Artists?

By Sexy Susie on 1 Sep 2010  |  No Comments

Dear Sexy Susie,

My girlfriends and I go clubbing a lot. We have our go-to clubs, but the problem is we always get hit on. Guys are always trying to pick us up and we know they’re just looking to get some and then move on. We just want to dance and have fun without having to deal with these guys who want to get into our pants. Why will guys do almost anything to get laid? It is like they will say anything to get us into bed and then never talk to us again. How come?

Holly, 21, Myrtle Beach, SC

Hello Holly,

Hormones are what drive men to want to get some from women who are willing to give it. Getting laid provides validation for men. It is a game of hunting and conquering.

Not all guys are looking to score with you when they try to pick you up at a dance club. Some guys just want to have fun and be flirty! They have fun in the chase, regardless of the outcome.

Look at this another way, you are so HOT to these guys want to be with you. That is quite the compliment. There are some gals who crave male attention, but don’t always get it. Some of the guys you meet might only be looking for something short term (i.e. a one-night stand), but are you looking for commitment? It’s fine to have fun with your friend, and flirt with the guys, too!

Use this to your advantage. Guys are generous in buying drinks, boosting your ego, and making you laugh. It is like an exchange or trade: They’re having fun hanging out with you and you get bombarded with compliments. It may be in hopes of getting into your pants, but it doesn’t have to be that for you.

Enjoy the limited time you have! You will find that things will change as time goes on. When they do change, you may find yourself asking where all the horny guys have gone and why they are no longer throngs of virile men trying to pick you up every Saturday night.

Good luck!

Sexy Susie

True Dating Story: Mother Knows Best?

By Sexy Susie on 31 Aug 2010  |  1 Comment

I have a confession to make – I am addicted to online dating.  I fully believe that it is the greatest invention since sliced bread.  With a few clicks of a mouse, I have literally millions of gorgeous men from around the world at my fingertips, just sitting and waiting for me to burst into their world!

A couple months ago, I hit a glitch in my perfect world of going to work and then spending five hours a night making online dating profiles, talking to Brad Pitt lookalikes and making dates like they were going out of style.  As soon as Michael IM’d me one rainy night to tell me I was the most exotic looking beauty he’d ever seen, I knew he was definitely my type.  He had the same twisted sense of humor that I did and we spent three hours trying to one-up each other with hilarity.

We decided to meet the next night at a local dive bar to see some cheesy new band that he couldn’t stop talking about.  The band sucked but we had a good time dancing and joking around.  He was definitely sexy and sweet and I was smitten!

Michael and I continued to see each other practically every other night for the next couple of weeks.  The sex was mind-blowing and I quietly started picturing myself in a strapless, princess wedding gown with daisies in my hair, walking down the aisle with my mom and dad leading me to Michael and my perfect future.

I couldn’t contain my excitement any longer so I called my very best friend in the entire world and asked her to meet me for lunch so I could spill my new-found love all over her overpriced Gucci heels.   We met at a little café downtown and sipped mimosa’s while I gushed and cooed over my new perfect man.

Just as I was explaining the intricate contours of Michael’s face, I looked up to see, wait… is that my mother??  Making out with some guy?  She was newly single after all, having just divorced my father, so I shouldn’t be that surprised.  But gross, making out like a couple of teenagers in public?  Who was this guy??

I stood up to yell “Mom?” just as her mouth parted with a young man who looked a whole lot like Michael.  My heart suddenly burst out of my chest and crawled for safety under my friend’s stupid Gucci heels when I realized that the man my mother was slobbering all over WAS Michael.  MY Michael!

They both turned to look at me at the same moment and my mother smiled and waved while Michael’s face took on a panicked life of its own.  Like a panther on the prowl, I lunged towards the happy couple not quite sure what I would do when I got to them.  Like a deer caught in headlights, Michael looked back and forth between my mother and I, bugged eyed and ready to cry.  He unclasped his hand from my mother’s and suddenly just started to run.

Needless to say, neither my mother nor I ever heard from Michael again.  Our relationship has been strained and awkward ever since and I honestly can’t look at her these days without feeling slightly nauseous.

Mackenzie, 21, Long Island, NY

Friday Night Date: Top 5 Things Girls Should NOT Say on a First Date!

By jackie on 27 Aug 2010  |  2 Comments

Last week we brought you The Top 5 Things Guys Should NOT Say on a First Date and this week we are turning the tables to bring you The Top 5 Things Girls Should NEVER Say on a First Date!

1.  “When we get married…”

Ok, this one should be really obvious but I have heard so many female friends start this sentence with a guy they’ve only been dating for a minute and it makes me cringe every time.  Ladies, the one sure way to make a guy run for the hills is to start talking commitment too soon in the relationship.  Most guys aren’t thinking past what they’re going to have for dinner so for heaven’s sake, don’t start pressuring them about the future, let alone your future together!  Just let things happen naturally.

2.  “Do you think she’s pretty?”

Here’s another gem that I hear being spewed from so many girls’ mouths.  Of course he thinks she’s pretty!  If you think she’s pretty and then proceed to ask him if he thinks she’s pretty, then she’s probably gorgeous and you are just looking for trouble.  Don’t ask a question that you don’t want an honest answer for!

3.  “My ex used to do the exact same thing!”

Ugh, can you imagine if a guy said this to YOU?  You would probably smack him outside the head and then kick him while he’s down.  It’s no surprise that women hate to hear about their new crushes ex -girlfriend, so what makes you think he wants to hear about your previous trysts?  Keep a lid on it!  Guy’s hate to be compared with other guy’s (penis envy, anyone?) so leave your ex out of it.

4.  “Do I look fat in this?”

Here we have another prime example of not asking a question that you can’t handle an honest answer for.  Most guys have learned the hard way that there really is no right answer to this question except an adamant “NO!” so that is what you’ll always get.  Sure, it’s what you want to hear but it may not be the truth.  He’s probably programmed that response in his brain but one day you might ask this question and get an honest and brutal answer.  Don’t go looking for trouble!

5.  “I’m fine!”

Ok, I admit I use this one all the time but it never gets me anywhere.  Ever have a bad day and your guy just keeps pestering you and asking “What’s wrong?”?  Snapping back an “I’m FINE!” will only baffle the poor guy because you’re saying one thing but acting completely different.  We don’t want to confuse the poor things, do we?  Don’t say you’re fine unless you are fine and if you’re not, just be honest.  Guy’s appreciate the straight up approach so he will be grateful for your honesty and once you open up to him, you will probably start to actually feel fine!

Good luck out there and happy Friday to all!

What is the worst thing a girl has ever said to you on a first date?  As a girl, do you ever say these things to guys?  What kind of reaction do you get?

Hottie of the Week: Ryan!

By katie on 26 Aug 2010  |  1 Comment

Hi! My name is…

I’m Ryan, 20, I love energy and sports, adrenaline and the rush from doing things you haven’t done before. Originally from Noosa Heads in QLD, Studying Electronics in Melbourne currently, play Aussie Rules Football on weekends when I’m not snowboarding, always out for a challenge and haven’t found one that’s left me stumped yet. I love new ideas and people that just want to have fun.

What’s HOT?

Snowboarding, the beach, bikinis/lingerie, drum and bass, beer, spearfishing, scotch, fun, How I Met Your Mother, Arrested Development, Malamutes/Huskies

What’s NOT?

Drugs, Justin Bieber, public toilets, Julia Gillard, animal cruelty, small yappy dogs, no surf.

Say hello to this sexy, sporty, spontaneous Australian hottie and check out more pics of the fitness buff doing what he does best – staying active! – on his HOT or NOT profile.

Dating Advice: Smack-Talking Tweets

By Sexy Susie on 25 Aug 2010  |  No Comments

Dear Sexy Susie,

I am dating this girl who is so frigging drama like. She texts me all the time, wants to know where I am at all hours, and the worst thing is she twitters about how she thinks I am a jerk. She has a lot of Twitter followers and calls me vulgar names. She thinks she is all that, a Ms Diva. I tried to tell her once I don’t want to see her anymore, but for some reason she is not getting the message. Got any suggestions?

Drake, 23, Toronto, ON

Hello Drake,

It sounds like you have your own version of Jersey Shore.

The opening of your question is “you are dating this girl,” then you proceed to say you “tried to tell her once you don’t want to see her anymore.” It sounds like she may be getting mixed messages from you.

Talk to her in private, look her directly in the eyes, and be clear in telling her you no longer want to date her.

Choose how extreme you want to go in not seeing her anymore. If you never want to see her again in any of your social circles, block her from your Twitter, Facebook, and any other online social sites that you’re both on. If she calls you, do not answer your phone. Do not give her the time of day.

If you still want her as a friend, you have to make it clear to her that you no longer want to date her, but being friends is okay with you.

If Guidette (the girl) proceeds to talk “trash” about Guido (yourself), you might want to rethink about being friends at all.

Remember this experience the next time you’re choosing someone to date. If you picked her to date, and you claim she is all “drama like,” look at yourself and consider what type of person you are attracting. It takes two to tango.

Good luck!

Sexy Susie

True Story: The Killer Blog

By Sexy Susie on 24 Aug 2010  |  2 Comments

I’m not the type of guy who generally makes the first move or even approaches a beautiful girl in a bar but when I first saw Rachel, I knew I had to say something. Her hair looked like spun gold and her green eyes danced like an 1890’s burlesque dancer.  She sat casually aloof on a bar stool at a trendy coffee shop and the moment I walked in and ordered my espresso, I knew she had to be mine.

After giving myself a Tony Robbins pep talk, I sauntered over to this luscious creature, whose head was stuck in a notebook, writing feverishly.  I could only imagine what brilliant poetry was being written in that very privileged book.  Oh, to be the pen that is so blessed to be held by this otherworldly being.

I stammered “Hello” to her.  She looked up from her notebook and smiled with half her mouth as one eyebrow perched suspiciously.  I quickly introduced myself and asked if I could buy her another coffee.  She replied “Free refills” and smiled with her entire mouth this time.  I nearly keeled over.  The ice was broken and I was in!  We spent the next half an hour making small talk and I was in heaven.  She suddenly got up and said, “I have to go, but would you like to take me out on Friday night?”

Was she kidding?  I nearly jumped out of my chair with joy but humbly accepted her offer with a nonchalant “Yeah sure, I think I’m free on Friday”.  I spent the next four days in panic mode just waiting for something bad to happen.  Nothing happened.  By the time Friday came, I was a certified mess.

I picked Rachel up and we went for drinks at the new “it” bar downtown.  She was even more beautiful than I had remembered.  She was funny, intelligent and worked as a writer – which would explain the notebook.  For whatever crazy reason, Rachel seemed to really like me and she continued to go out with me every Friday night for the next six weeks.

Things were perfect.  I figured this was the girl I was going to marry me and I couldn’t believe my luck.  I decided to invite her to be my date for a friend’s wedding at the end of the month and she wholeheartedly accepted!  I couldn’t wait to show her off to my buddies and see them seething with jealousy.

During the wedding and party after, I noticed my friends acting strange and they appeared to be laughing behind my back.  The next day I called my best buddy and asked him what the deal was and if they had some kind of problem with Rachel.  He said he didn’t know how to tell me this but instructed me to visit some website if I wanted the truth.

Curious, I booted up my computer and went right to the address he had given me.  It was one of those blog websites and at the top of the page, I saw a picture of Rachel, lounged sexily across the entire screen with the title, “My One Year Plan to Date the Biggest Losers in San Fransisco”.  The first article on the page had a picture of me with the headline, “The Poor Schmuck Who Thinks He Has A Chance”.

My body suddenly deflated and I slinked down my chair into a puddle of slush and shame.  Rachel tried to call me for several weeks following my discovery but I never responded.  I have officially learned my lesson and will never attempt to pick up a random girl  again!

Danny, 29, San Fransisco, CA

Friday Night Date: Top 5 Things Guys Should NOT Say on a First Date!

By jackie on 20 Aug 2010  |  3 Comments

Is it Friday already?  Time sure flies when you’re having fun (or when you’re stuck in a cubicle all week just praying for Friday afternoon to make an appearance)!

This week, we want to give the guy’s some advice on what NOT to say to your beautiful date when trying to make a good first impression.  First dates can be rough, and sometimes you may divulge a bit too much information to your date when you’re nervous and trying to impress her.  Or maybe you just suffer from verbal diarrhea and can’t control the words that come out of your mouth.

If you’re taking a lady out this weekend, we suggest you steer clear of saying the following:

1.  “This is a great restaurant!  You should try the oysters.  My ex-girlfriend used to love this place and I can promise you oysters are a great aphrodisiac.”

2.  “I have come so far in the last few years when it comes to my standards for who I date.  If this were five years ago, I wouldn’t have looked at you twice, let alone gone on a date with you!”

3. “You couldn’t tell just by looking at me that I had a serious case of gonorrhea a couple years ago, could you?  They said it was cured, but you just never know these days.”

4.  “You look fatter than your picture on Facebook.  Did you put on weight recently?”

5.  “I really don’t like to use condoms.  They are uncomfortable and my penis never fits in them anyway.  Besides, what’s the worst that could happen if I don’t wear one?”

Check back next week for the Top 5 things girls should NOT say on a first date!

What is the worst thing a guy has said to you on a first date?  If you take out a girl, do you find yourself saying things you shouldn’t?

Hottie of the Week: Victoria!

By katie on 19 Aug 2010  |  1 Comment

Hi! My name is…

Hey! My name is Victoria and I am 21 from Pickering, Ontario, Canada. I’m new to this online dating type thing but I’ll try anything once! I’m excited to see what happens! In a nutshell, I’m a down-to-earth kind of girl who can find the silver lining in anything and is looking forward to see what life holds for me. Best wishes and never stop going after what you want!

What’s HOT?

A good sense of humour
Manners
The Office
Scrubs
Beer
Simon and Garfunkle
Rum
Super Nintendo
A nice smile

What’s NOT?

Disrespect
Lack of education
War
Too much time at the gym
Nickleback

See more pretty pictures of Victoria on her HOT or NOT profile!

Dating Advice: I Caught My Parents Doing It!

By Sexy Susie on 18 Aug 2010  |  No Comments