Hottie of the Week: Sam!
By katie on 29 Jul 2010 | No Comments
Admit it: You’re hooked on Jersey Shore and have spent all summer fist-pumping your way through Season 1 reruns in order to ease the shakes caused from GTL withdrawal. To celebrate tonight’s premiere of MTV’s Jersey Shore 2, we’ve got a little early-morning hit of Shore action, with Sam, our #1 Hottie from Jersey.
Hi! My name is…
Yo, whats up HOT or NOT.com. My name is Sam. I am 20 years old and I’m from Woodbridge NJ. 
My daily routine revolves around 3 simple things. Gym, Tan, Laundry. And of course I know how to get down in the club. I should be person of the week cause my Swag is off the charts, and the ladies cant get enough of me.
What’s HOT?
Hot Chicks in bikinis. Ladies gettin down in the club. Guidettes. Jersey Shore. Athletic Chicks. Super Models.
What’s NOT?
Fat chicks and people with NO Swag
Dating Advice: Should I say “I do”?
By Sexy Susie on 28 Jul 2010 | 1 Comment
Dear Sexy Susie,
I have been with my girlfriend for about five years. We are at the stage where we should get married, but I feel like I should sow some wild oats before that. 
Should I just have a fling, than get married, or take some time off from this relationship? I couldn’t fathom being apart from her, but I am scared of being with only one woman the rest of my life or cheating on her when we are married. What should I do?
Paul, 23, Regina, Saskatchewan
Hello Paul,
You are not alone in your state of confusion. Most people feel what you do at your stage of the relationship, regardless of gender.
When you say “you should get married,” who is saying you should? If you haven’t already, speak to your girlfriend about what she wants. If she is gung ho about getting married, get her to talk about why she wants to be married. You can do this without expressing your confusion. State that you want to understand her and what she wants. Women love to know that their partners want this. Your girlfriend may not want to get married at all right now. If you are experiencing external pressures from family or friends, don’t get married just for them. Take a step back to get some clarity as to where this pressure you feel is coming from.
You say that you’re scared of being with only one woman, or maybe cheating on her when she’s your wife, but you can only make the right choice for the here and now. Don’t forecast your feelings for the future.
It sounds like you might want to have your cake and eat it to. If you’re seriously considering suggesting that you take a break, I suggest that you make a list of the pros and cons of being with someone else before you bring it up. You do run the risk of not having a relationship with her again if you take a break. You say you could not fathom that – ask yourself why you can’t be without her and be clear as to what she brings and gives you in your life. Think about what you bring to her, and how that makes you feel.
From what I hear you projecting it sounds like you should wait a while longer before getting married. There is nothing wrong with waiting. You need clarity within yourself about this relationship.
Monogamy is tough, it takes a lot of work. It is not picture perfect, nor like the movies make it out to be.
On the other hand, though, sowing wild oats is not it is all cracked up to be. Sex is just sex, it is what goes on in your being and mind that matter. The intimacy you have with your girlfriend has taken a long time to establish.
If you have never been with another person in your life, it may be something to consider. There is no clear cut answer. You have to make the best decision at this time in your life. Don’t live with regrets about any decision you do make. Know that you make the best decision you can at this stage of your life. You have a long life ahead of you, don’t rush into anything. Being in a relationship for more than five years before getting married is not at all a negative thing.
Good luck!
Sexy Susie
True Story: What Was I Thinking?
By Sexy Susie on 27 Jul 2010 | 1 Comment
When my boyfriend Jake of three years proposed to me, I was ecstatic! I emphatically said “Yes” and we tentatively set a date for a beautiful fall wedding, 
which was about seven months away. Our “hook up” story is definitely one for the books. I was dating a guy (who shall remain nameless) but was cheating on him with another guy named Derek. When Derek found out I was dating Mr. Nameless, he gave me an ultimatum: “Me or him”. I chose Derek. We dated for about two months and had a wonderful relationship. Through Derek, I met his friend Jake and that’s when all the trouble started.
Derek and Jake fought over me and I ended up being forced yet again to choose one guy over the other. In this case, I chose Jake. I felt I had made the absolute right decision and once Jake and I started dating, I put my unfaithful tendencies aside and as of the day he proposed to me, I hadn’t cheated on him a single time. I was so proud of myself! Sadly, Jake and Derek never spoke again.
After seven months of planning our wedding, I was beyond frazzled and stressed out as the day got closer and closer. Collectively, Jake and my parents had put nearly $60,000 into this grand affair and everything was ready to go.
The night before my wedding, I had gone out with my bridesmaids for drinks. When I got a call from Jake’s old friend Derek, I was in shock. He sounded desperate and begged to see me. He had heard that I was getting married to Jake and just needed to talk to me before I did. Apprehensively, I agreed and went to see him. When I arrived, Derek opened the door and I nearly dropped dead. He had lost at least 50 pounds, was tanned and looked taller than I remembered. He told me he had never stopped loving me and though he knew Jake and I were getting married, he wanted just one more intimate encounter with me. He said if I would just have him one more time, he would be able to let me go.
My stupid ego and the sight of Derek’s new-found hotness took over and before he even finished speaking, I jumped on him, wrapped my legs around his waist and passionately kissed him. We had the greatest two hours of sex I have ever had. After it was over, he thanked me and wished me all the love and luck in the world. I felt guilty, but was glad that I had gotten it out of my system and was ready to marry Jake and be monogamous for the rest of our lives.
As I walked up the aisle the next afternoon, on the arm of my father, I felt happier than I ever have. When I got to the altar, I was horrified to see Derek walk out from behind Jake and stand right beside my future husband. Derek said to everyone, “Before I let my best friend marry this girl, I thought he and all of you should see this”. A video was projected onto the church wall with Derek and me kissing and then having sex. My mouth dropped wide open and Jake and Derek gave each other a knowing look and walked straight out of the church.
I found out later they had re-connected before our wedding and planned the entire thing. To this day, I am still in debt to Jake’s parents and mine to pay back our wedding costs and have not seriously dated any guys since. Most of my friends and family have stopped talking to me and I am still paying for this mistake every day of my life. I guess they’re right when they say “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
Jenny, 25, Miami, Florida
Friday Night Date: Losers to Look Out For! (Part 1: The Guys)
By jackie on 23 Jul 2010 | 1 Comment
One of the best ways to meet guys when you’re a single girl is to just get out there and be your friendly, awesome and confident self! Whether you like to hit the bars and clubs or you prefer to sit in coffee shops and brood sexily, single guys are out there everywhere! Unfortunately, if you’re anything like me, no matter where you go, the loser guys are on the prowl. This week we are going to introduce you to the Top 3 Guys You Must Avoid!
1. The Greasy Skeeze Ball
You know this guy. He and his friends show up to the bars and slink through the crowd looking like greased up horny monkeys looking to hump anything 
with breasts. Think, Jersey Shore. Sure, they may be hot, tanned, and ripped but can you imagine how much money they spend on hair gel and tanning spray? Do you really want to fight with your guy over who gets to spend more time in front of the mirror? First off, these guys generally live in a dream world where they think they are better than everyone else so right there you’ve got a huge red flag. These guys tend to make harsh judgments on people who aren’t like them and if you don’t fit into their ideal of the perfect woman, you may end up getting burned. They may be confident and sexy, but I promise you that the long term affects of dating this type of guy will leave you with a bad taste!
2. The Mama’s Boy
Here’s a guy that seems absolutely perfect in every single way. He’s charming, romantic, thoughtful, always remembers to 
send you flowers on special occasions and listens (I mean, actually listens and doesn’t just pretend to like other guys) to any and every thought or feeling that you have. You find out he loves his mother more than anything and you officially believe he’s perfect. Then after some time, you realize he’s not looking for a girlfriend so much as he’s looking for a new mommy to take care of him. Guys like this end up being whiny, co-dependent and lazy because they’re so used to having their mothers take care of them, they have no idea how to do it on their own. Unless you want to be some guy’s mother, I suggest you steer clear of the mama’s boy!
3. The Intellectual
The intellectual or “brainy” guy is the new hunk. Nerds are suddenly becoming cool and the geeky glasses and suspenders look is now the hottest fashion 
trend. Just like the Greasy Skeeze Ball, intellectual guys tend to have massive egos that cannot be tamed. They think they know more than everyone else and are not afraid to call people out on their stupidity. These guys are generally really full of themselves and think no girl will ever be smart enough for them so be careful when trying to impress this type of guy with your staggering wit and intelligence. While we would all prefer a smart guy over a dumb one, just don’t get your feelings hurt if he mocks your intellect! Sometimes these guys are just hiding behind their supposed intelligence as a defense mechanism and frankly, you deserve better!
Next week’s Friday Night Date: The Top 3 Girls You Must Avoid!
What is the worst type of guy you’ve dated? Have you dated a Greasy Skeeze Ball, Mama’s Boy or an Intellectual and had a bad experience? Which type of guy do you avoid at all costs?
Hottie of the Week: Lauren!
By katie on 22 Jul 2010 | 2 Comments
This week’s #1 hottie lives in Florida and her outlook on life is as sunny as the Sunshine State itself.
Hi! My name is…
Hi there, my name is Lauren and I am currently located in sunny Tampa, FL! I am 20 years old and a student trying to learn how to make it in the big world. 
I consider myself “Hot” but not just on the outside! Kindness, a smile, and a simple “please” and “thank you” can take you a long way! Stay true to yourself and live life to the fullest 
What’s HOT?
Dog owners, great smiles, boating, soccer players, and facial scruff.
What’s NOT?
Spandex on men, fake baking, texting during a date, picky eaters, and cheapos.
Want to say “hello” to our shiny, happy Hottie of the Week? Click here to view more pics on her HOT or NOT profile and send her a message, why don’t ya?
Style Tip of the Week: Hot Shorts!
By roseanna on 19 Jul 2010 | No Comments
Who wears short shorts? We allll should be this summer! Hot shorts/boy shorts are blazing hot this summer to match the heat. The best part of this style trend is that you can wear them anywhere, anyhow, and anytime without feeling ‘under-dressed’.
What better way to strut your stuff and beat the heat stylishly than in a teeny tiny pair of shorts? They look good in any material and whether you pair them with a simple tee or a studded blazer, you can look oh-so-cool and feel the part. They’re available virtually everywhere and aren’t hard to find in simple solids or playful prints. Paired up with flats, wedges, or heels you’ll be a step ahead of the comptetion and show off those lovely legs while you’re at it!
Have you been wearing itty-bitty shorts to stay HOT this summer?
Friday Night Date: Worst Pick-Up Lines!
By jackie on 16 Jul 2010 | No Comments
OK guys and girls, it’s that time again. Friday has rolled around, the summer heat is making you sweat, and you want to hit the town for cool drinks and 
good times! It’s been a long week of work or school and all you want to do is find a smoking hot guy or girl to take home! We’ve compiled a list of some of some of the worst pick-up lines we’ve ever heard and also provide you with some snappy comebacks! Though if the person trying to pick you up is a hottie, you could just let them get away with it. Happy Friday everyone!
Them: “Hi, my name is ‘Milk’. I’ll do your body good.
You: “Oh I’m sorry, I’m lactose intolerant.”
Them: “Are you free tonight or will it cost me?”
You: “I would LOVE to screw your brains out for free, but looks like someone already beat me to it!”
Them: “Hey, do you work for UPS? I could have sworn I saw you checking out my package!”
You: “I’m sorry I’ve just never seen one that small!”
Them: “How do you like your eggs in the morning?”
You: “Unfertilized”
Them: “I was so enchanted by your beauty that I just ran into the wall over there. So I am going to need your name and number for insurance purposes”
You: “I’m sorry but that’s what happens when you take off the helmet they told you to wear. And I would think the special bus you rode in here on would cover those types of costs.”
Them: “You have 206 bones in your body. Want one more?”
You: “Sure, but since having an extra bone in my body will throw off the balance, I’ll have to break it”
Them: “If you were a booger, I’d pick you first.”
You: “If YOU were a booger, I’d flick you under a bus.”
Them: Do you have a license? You’re driving me crazy.
You: “Actually, I have a Psychology license, but you are too far gone. Sorry!”
What is the worst pick-up line you’ve ever heard? Do you ever use pick-up lines and if so, do they ever work?
Dating Advice: I Have a Crush on My Step-Brother!
By Sexy Susie on 14 Jul 2010 | No Comments
Dear Sexy Susie,
My mom has met a new man and plans to marry him within the year. The man she is marrying has a son who is around the same age as me. I am really 
attracted to him and we are getting along nicely. Is it out of bounds to want to date my step brother?
Cynthia, 24, Wichita, KS
Hi Cynthia,
Congratulations to your mother. It sounds like you all are getting along nicely.
Legally speaking your step brother is of no blood relation to you. You could have met him online, at a party, in a church, many other places, you happened to have met him through your mother. You did not grow up with him, hence not seeing him through all the awkward teenage stages in life. You met him as an adult. Those points are in your court.
If he is not into you the same way as you are into him, or if he does not feel it is appropriate to be dating you, you might be putting yourself in a quandary. If you do date him and have a disagreement it might be more complex due to the relations of everyone. He might talk to his dad, who talks to your mom, and the whole family politics take place. On the other hand, if your mom & her partner have an argument that could be difficult for you and your step brother who at that time would be your boyfriend. Those are some points that are against your situation.
A major factor is how your step brother feels about your feelings. When the both of your are alone why not propose to him in an open fashion, “Hey have you ever dated a step sister before”? Laugh, smile when you say it. See his reaction. If he is warm to the idea, poke a little more about it. If he is freaked out by it, or firmly disagrees with it back off. You’ll have an answer either way.
If he is warm to the idea see if you both have something in common (besides your parents). If you both like a tv show, or an activity spend time participating in it. Due to the sensitive nature of family relations, spend time with him in a productive manner, rather than just in the sack. You have lots of time to be with him in an intimate manner, take your time getting to know him.
When you do get to know him, that will bring you more confidence when you go all the way! First base, second, and than a home run! Getting to know him is the hard part, once you have the rest will fall into place.
Whether you do “hook up” or just remain step brother and sister, establish boundaries between the two of you as to what is acceptable or not when it comes to talking, and dealing with your parents. You always have a choice with how you react to things. Don’t make hasty decisions, and think about the pros and cons of your situation and how you would introduce yourself and boyfriend to others. You are the most important person in this, as it matters most how you feel about wanting to, or actually dating your step brother.
Good luck!
Sexy Susie
True Story: Caught on Camera!
By Sexy Susie on 13 Jul 2010 | 1 Comment
I work for a large international company that employs close to 300 people in our office and of those 300 people at least 200 of them are deliciously hot and 
single young men who practically swagger around the office begging to be jumped. One particular guy, Stefan, had caught my attention ever since the day he started working six months ago. He wore a pink shirt on his first day and I thought, “Yes, now THAT’S a guy I can hang with”. Who doesn’t like pink?
I’m a single girl and definitely one of the hottest girls in the office so I tend to use this to my advantage and flirt like a fiend with any man that comes in my direction. Apparently, some of the other women in the office don’t like this and a few of them have made their distaste for me quite obvious. Trust me, jealous women have always hated me so I barely even notice their pettiness at this point.
Anyway, Stefan was clearly the guy every girl in this office was after and so I made it my personal quest to conquer this wild man and have him for my very own. At the end of the work day a couple months ago, Stefan asked if anyone wanted to stay late to catch up on some work that needed to be done. I had a manicure booked but figured spending a few extra hours alone with Stefan was far more important than having my nails filed so I immediately volunteered.
After everyone in the office left, Stefan and I busted out the beers leftover from the Christmas party and started drinking while we crunched numbers. It doesn’t get more romantic than that, and I was definitely feeling amorous. I pulled out my best moves and flipped my hair around like a maniac. I batted my eyes at him and even put on some music at one point and did a little striptease inspired dance for him.
Naturally, he couldn’t resist me for very long. Before I knew it, we were making out on the receptionist’s desk and fondling each other like animals. It was magical. We ended up having sex on the floor of the big boss’ office and as soon as we were done, we finished our work and went our separate ways. I could not wait to get to work the next day and tell all those jealous bitches about how I scored with Stefan.
When I arrived at work the next day, I was met with snotty snickers and stares from the same girls I was hoping to crush. I got to my desk, opened my work email account and there it was – a link to a video of Stefan and I getting down and dirty in the boss’ office! I puked in my mouth a little and then went on a wild rampage around the office until I found Stefan who was in the middle of providing every single detail of our romp to a huge group of guys.
It turns out the security camera had caught all the action from the night before and Stefan had sent a copy to everyone in the office. Fortunately, neither Stefan nor I were fired however we were forced to pay for a professional carpet cleaning service for my boss’ office.
Ever since that humiliating day, I have calmed my flirtatious attitude down a notch but if anything, I have only become more popular with the guys in the office!
Julia, 30, Los Angeles, California
Dating Advice: Love Connection, 2.0
By Sexy Susie on 7 Jul 2010 | 1 Comment
Dear Sexy Susie, I’m getting discouraged and frustrated with the lack of responses to my online profiles. The responses I do get are companies trying to 
get me to sign up for web cam stuff. Why are there no good gals for hook ups around?
Drew, 24, Tacoma, Washington
Hi Drew,
It is good to hear you are not putting all your eggs in one basket, as you state the plural of profile. Utilizing all avenues available when looking for a partner is the key. Online dating is about marketing yourself.
Users of online dating sites that are not genuinely there for the same reason you are and are trying to recruit you to another web site to get you to sign up to watch them are frustrating to say the least. Keep in mind, they are just doing a job they have and trying to use all avenues and resources they have access to. Most legitimate online dating sites will remove these “fake” profiles if you report them. Being online is an open free for all, you will encounter every type of person out there. You have the power to say no and minimize the amount of these profiles you have no interest in.
When using an online dating site, don’t give out personal information in your messages to others. Get a feel first for the other user. Communicate with original messaging. Don’t duplicate a message to the masses. Address the other user individually. Care about what you say.
Be creative with your photos. Be aware of your surroundings when you take a photo of yourself. When someone else sees your photo they do look at where you are and what you are wearing. Being in your laundry room with a bunch of dirty clothes around, or naked in your shower letting it all hang out may not be the ideal situation for another user to see you in right off the bat. First impression are vital.
Look at your online profile(s) as you would like a new career choice. Put your best foot forward, your best self out there. Remembering no one is perfect, say yes to everyone! Filter them out through means of messaging. Ask off the wall questions! When you go to a career interview you can be asked a question you might think is ridiculous, but the answer does help in knowing the person you are, or fit you are for the position. It is the same for online dating. Women enjoy being asked questions! There are many males who don’t express and just write one line answers. Elaborate, have an opinion, be open.
If you haven’t already, write an introduction on your profile(s), be specific about something you like about your life. Don’t judge in your profile (eg. Don’t contact me if you don’t have blonde hair).If you are critical, as opposed to being open, you will loose out on someone who could be your ideal mate.
There are females out there who want to meet you. Your avenues include in-person as well as online. When you are out and about with your day, strike up a conversation with females you are interested in. Whether it be in a coffee shop or grocery store, you have nothing to loose. You have to utilize all your options, invest quality time (as you would with a new career), and be open minded.
Good luck!
Sexy Susie
